Don't Shit where you sleep.

"Don't shit where you sleep"
The basic problem with the passive aggressive Gandhi attitude towards authority

For the last 6 years I've had the wonderful experience of being the dreaded "step father"  or in the children heads "step person".
I've trying to break 15 years of really bad habits and general disrespect for anything and everything that doesn't effect the basics of their bottom line.  A bottom line they believe they have some entitlement to.  

I've tried everything. It has gotten me no where.  They have been aloud to have loyalty to their real father above all else.  He lets them smoke and drink and hang out and basically do nothing but play World of Warcraft locked in bed rooms for the last 6 years, only coming out to drop off dirty dishes on days they don't have to do dishes.  Every attempt at order, chores, values, work ethics, right and wrong has been met with nothing but energy spent on side stepping, and "end arounds" .  Some designed to get what they want when they want it, and other simply to chip away at my sanity in the hopes that I simply throw in the towel.

After countless battles over messy kitchens, lights, TV's and computers left on, ON purpose, the air being let out of tires, and a basic total boycott of anything that would help me in any way, even at the expense of hurting there own mother to make a point, I've decided to take a new attitude.

I am going to wait it out.  I only have a few more years before they are gone, and I've prepared myself to live in complete filth with the knowledge that soon, I will be able to live in a home that I can invite friends and family over to come inside the house to and live comfortable as a normal person, only having to deal with these kids as visiting adults.  Having the ability to clean the house and update and improve the house and being able to know that it is not going to be wasted energy.  Knowing that when I get home, it will be as I left it.  Not having to hide prescriptions, check books, money when I leave my own house.  These are the things that I have been reduced to longing for above all else.  Things that normal people have everyday are dreams to me.

You see though, they have not thought it through.  All the times I've asked for tv's and computer to be turned off, now the lightning strikes are taking out each piece of equipment they are using as weapons because the strategy of leaving things on is getting them fried.  The car that we pay for insurance and all the other things for years is now almost run into the ground, in over a week I will not be re registering it at all.
If a twenty year old who has never even had a paper route thinks i'm going to finance his driving forever, he is nuts.  By the age of twenty i was  on my third car.  Any every one of them was paid for by me.  I blew two up by being a child. But that is how you learn the world sucks.
The Xbox's that don't work, everything is slowly breaking down.  sadly they still look to me to fix the stuff they break, while leaving a pig pen through out the whole house.  All the baby toys they will not let us throw out, all the crap stuffed in drawers, everything is going to disintegrate into nothing.  

They will learn this last lesson from me and hopefully it will teach them one basic lesson of life.  "Don't shit where you sleep"

So yeah the guy you give the middle finger to is not going to fix your car, or you computer or your Xbox.  The guy who asks you to simply close a door or clean up your crumbs is not going to finance your driving or insure your pot smoking.  He is not going to do jack squat.  He is going to give you the gift he has been given, nothing......:)

Ah.....I feel wonderful.  And Yes, I am going to put the surveillance cameras on my cars and drive way, hell maybe even my room.  No more free gas while I sleep, no more letting the air out of my tires, no more Bee Bee gun attacks on my cars.

They have made a bed of disrespect  and now they are going to sleep in it  and I could not be more happy.

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